Ela Darling Interview

Captain Jack interviews Ela Darling

I had the chance to talk with Ela this week. She is an extremely intelligent, engaging woman who enjoys her job. We had a wide ranging interview and maybe, perhaps, we broke some news! You’ll have to read to find out!

Ela Darling

Captain Jack: Tell me about Ela Darling. What kind of girl were you growing up?

Ela Darling: For the most part, I grew up in Texas. I lived in a lot of places before that but I consider myself from Texas, Denton, Texas. I was a teenage goth kid. I was on the spelling team, National Honor Society and chess club. I did all that shit. (laughs) I was very ambitious. I went to college at the University of Texas at Dallas. I studied Forensic Psychology and graduated in 3 years. Then I went to Grad School for Library Information Science at the University of Illinois. I got my Master’s Degree in one year, so I was 21 when I finished. I became a reference librarian and was the Associate Director of a Library when I was 22, which was crazy. They didn’t realize how young I was when they hired me. I started modeling when I was in college and I was really into girls starting when I was a teenager. I took so many classes to get my Masters at 21 and I always worked 2-3 jobs during school also. So I went from that to working 35 hours a week at a library, which was full-time. They forbade me from doing other work. I started modeling and I started doing bondage shoots which progressed to nude modeling to porn. And that’s what I did. (laughs)

CJ: How long have you been in the industry?

Ela: 4-and-a-half years.

CJ: Now you do girl/girl, are you a committed lesbian or have you ever been with a guy?

Ela: Yes, I was married but that’s ending. There’s a chance that maybe I’ll explore another side of the industry now. It’s not something I’ve told a lot of people. (laughs)

CJ: When did you lose your virginity?

Ela: I think I was 15 with a boyfriend who I had been dating for a year. He was a very tough, badass kind of guy. He was 16 and he had these tattoos that he had done himself  because he was a bad boy. He was so sweet and it was a very positive experience. That’s probably why I like sex so much now.

CJ: When was the first time you were with a girl?

Ela: Gosh, I think the first time I messed around with a girl, just vaguely sexually, was 7th grade. So I was 12 or 13.

CJ: So that was making out?

Ela: Yeah, making out and feeling each other up. We had a deck of cards and were hiding cards on each other’s bodies. ‘It’s just a game! We’re just playing around. Ha Ha!’ And we were groping each other and playing with each other’s tits. (laughs) My first kiss was with a girl.

CJ: When was your first full-on girl-on-girl experience?

Ela: I guess that was 10th grade, so 15 also.

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CJ: So you were doing the modeling shoots and even going from BDSM shoots to porn is a huge step, why did you decide to get into the adult industry?

Ela: I had done some shoots that were not nude. But then I was approached to do nudes and I had a little bit of consternation. I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. I was critical of everything and I didn’t want to be in a bad situation. The first person I shot with was a guy named Craig. I don’t know what I expected but I thought he’d be a skeevy hard salesman with a gold chain and a typical porn producer. But he was like a fucking minister. He was so handsome and young and polite and smart and it was so positive. And I thought, this was kind of porn. And I did my first nude photo shoot which was great. Then I started thinking, if you put those two together, it’s almost porn, so why not?

We wanted to move to LA because I was with this guy and I married him. And I knew that getting a job in a library in LA would be hard because library funding tends to get cut first. The process of getting a job is tough. You have these group interviews and you can’t even apply for a specific library. It’s the whole library system and if they even decide to hire you, they’ll place you where they want. I was already getting paid as a model in Boston and I made more in an hour than I made in a day at the library. So I figured if I can get a decent amount of work in Boston, I could make it a full-time gig in LA and I did and it worked out.

CJ: I do have to say, you are the classic stereotype, the hot librarian who is a fucking animal at night.

Ela: When I was a librarian, I was the hot librarian. But now that I’m a porn star? I’m the smart porn star. So it’s funny. Even when I was in the profession that I had studied for, I was being objectified  more. Like now, the purpose of what I’m doing is for people to appreciate my body and people appreciate my intelligence beyond that which I didn’t get as much in the library.

CJ: Were you aware of the social stigma attached to being a porn star and that might affect your job prospects going forward for the rest of your life?

Ela: If a potential employer discriminates against sex workers, then that’s not someone who I want to put my passion and energy behind anyways. Porn is my passion, it’s what I want to do. I joined the Adult Performers Association Committee which started last September. I’m really, really excited about that and it’s making things better for performers. I love all of that. I’m not using the library degree to work in a library, but I’m using the skills and experiences that I learned in other things I’m doing. So it’s cool.

CJ: Was there any nervousness when you started filming? I mean all these people are there watching you fuck. What was your first scene like?

Ela: What I consider my first porn scene was a solo scene for fuckingmachines.com. I was nervous because it was called fucking machines and that shit was intense. But it was a very cool experience. At the time, I thought even if porn didn’t work out, this was an experience that I had to have just for the sake of living. There are some things that are intrinsically valuable and that was one of them. I was nervous and it was fun. But my first girl/girl sex scene was with Bobbi Starr, also for fucking machines. And that one I was fucking terrified because she’s brilliant and she’s kind and lovely. She’s very intelligent. We started talking and she used to work in a library too and went to college and she was so sweet. But then the cameras turned on and she was this mean bitch. Within 20 seconds, I was licking her asshole. I didn’t even know what was going on. I thought, ‘Am I supposed to lick her asshole? I guess so!’ (laughs) So I was very, very nervous. I thought I would play with her tits and do something normal and I was even afraid to take off my clothes! I was very nervous, very excited and I felt like the dorky kid who was spending the day with the cool kids. (laughs)

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CJ: If someone just discovered you and asked what’s the ultimate Ela Darling scene, what would you recommend?

Ela: My favorite ones that I’ve done are with Jincey Lumpkin for Juicy Pink Box. She’s my fairy godmother and I’m her muse. I inspire her and she inspires me as a performer. It’s beautiful and it’s very high fashion. She was a fashion lawyer and she has experience in the fashion industry. She knows me and she’ll sometimes let me recommend the cast to the producer. And she’ll ask me, ‘OK, who do you want to fuck?’ She’s awesome. I love working for her. Everytime I work for her, I feel like I shine brighter than I ever have.

CJ: What do you look for in another woman?

Ela: I like a woman who’s a positive person. I can’t really stand people who are downers, who have a negative thing to say about everything. I appreciate sardonic humor but at the same time it brings people the fuck down! I like girls who are excited, who are passionate. It’s like ‘I’m trying to share my passion with you and you’re shitting all over it! Lighten the fuck up!’

CJ: What do you like sexually? What gets Ela wet?

Ela: I love to be choked! I LOVE it! If you get rough and start choking me, I love it. I love anal, I discovered. Yes, I love anal. I fucking love anal. I love it rough. I haven’t had very many opportunities in my private life to be tied up and fucked, most of the bondage I’ve done has been for work, so I really want to be tied up and fucked.

CJ: How often do you cum during a scene?

Ela: I cum in almost every scene. I try really, really, really hard not to fake it, although sometimes you do. Sometimes they ask you to do things are so grossly unsexual or so unerotic that it’s like you have to pretend. For the most part, I have an orgasm in every scene. It’s really easy to make me cum. I can make myself cum in 20 seconds or less. Sometimes, it takes a couple of minutes. If you have to fake it all the time, then why are you doing it? If you’re not enjoying it, bummer.

CJ: I don’t even understand faking it in real life. If you fake it, you’re never going to get it right!

Ela: Sometimes it’s like, ‘Ok, this is not happening for me. You’re not going to get me there so please just stop trying to not cum and just blow your fucking load already. This is a road to nowhere. And I don’t want to say that right now because it’s going to kill your ego and you’ll feel terrible but it’s just not happening. I’m going to give you this pass and I’m going to fake it and you’ll feel good and I’ll feel relieved.’

CJ: Where’s the most uncomfortable place you’ve had sex?

Ela: A hotel. I got some nasty rug burn. I haven’t been in too many interesting and uncomfortable places.

CJ: Do you watch your own scenes?

Ela: No, not really, almost never.

CJ: How often do you masturbate?

Ela: You know what? I’ve been masturbating since I got on the phone with you.

CJ: Damn, why isn’t this on Skype?

Ela: There are some periods where I don’t masturbate at all, maybe a week, but for the most part, I masturbate literally more times than I can count in a day. I don’t keep track because there’s no point to it. Because I can make myself cum so quickly, it’s a lot.

CJ: Well if you feel the need to have a screaming orgasm, feel free. What’s the preferred method? Hands? Toys? Hitachi?

Ela: (laughs) Hands. I do love my Hitachi but I like my hands.

CJ: Who eats better pussy, men or women?

Ela: Women typically. It’s just no competition.

CJ: What have you learned about yourself sexually since joining porn?

Ela: Wow, I learned how to make myself squirt. I learned I like anal. I learned that I like bondage and being choked. My sexual experiences have taught me so much that I didn’t previously know about myself. I’ve learned a lot about my body, about female anatomy in general. Different things that go on in there because it’s my money maker. You’ve got to know everything. How to take care of things. I’ve gained a lot of respect for myself and I value my body and my sexuality a lot more. I take much better care of myself. I used to really hate my body and I used to eat not very much at all. Sometimes I ate a few tomato slices and that’s it. Doing porn, you would think women would be super self-conscious all the time and it must be really hard because you’re naked for everyone but, no, everyone wants to see me naked, how fucking cool is that? Before I started doing this, I tried to have a nice body because I was worried that no one wanted to see me naked. And when you get right down to it, that’s what it’s all about. So I feel awesome, I love my body, I feel much better about myself. I take better care of myself and I eat really healthy shit. I feel awesome. I love my body! I love my sexuality!

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CJ: What are you like off-camera? What are your hobbies and interests?

Ela: I like to read, I like to write. I’m getting into painting and more crafty things. I like to travel, hang out with my dogs. I sound really boring, I tend not to leave my house a lot. (laughs) I have a friend who plays in a band and they play monthly with a couple other bands and I go to watch them. It’s indie rock and I have a great time. I like to help other people. I’m kind of a ‘go-to’ crisis person among my friends. I like being that person that people trust.

CJ: Besides indie rock, what kind of music do you like?

Ela: I like Wizard Rock, which is indie rock that’s about Harry Potter. I like music about science. And I’m really getting into 90s rock. One of my favorite musicians right now is Mary Prankster, she hasn’t performed in about 10 years. She wrote these songs and it’s the spirit of women in their late 20s.

CJ: What’s your favorite movie?

Ela: I like a lot lately, it’s really hard for me to choose. I want to say Hanna. It’s about a young girl, named Hanna, she goes way the fuck off the grid. She gets taught how to shoot guns and be this bad ass young girl. She’s awesome. It reminds me a little of Leon the Professional but it’s more empowering. It stars Cate Blanchett.

CJ: What’s your favorite TV shows?

Ela: I like Game of Thrones, Archer, The Walking Dead, Silicon Valley and Community.

CJ: Do you play video games?

Ela: Not much, I’m not much of a gamer.

CJ: What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?

Ela: I was in an orgy of women in Cos Play at Comic Con last year. It was just a sporadic orgy. We were all there to do sexy photos for Hustler and we were all friends and we were all nerds in costume so we just went at it. (laughs)

CJ: Was Tanya Tate there?

Ela: No she wasn’t available at the time, she was totally booked. I was bummed that she wasn’t there. I love Tanya. She put me in her Cosplay Queens and Tied Up Teens. It was funny because we worked together a few months before that and that’s when we first met. She really liked me because we just clicked and she said she wanted to put me in her movie. She asked me what my fantasy was and at the time I told her I want to be tied up and fucked into submission by a hot, tall, pale skinned brunette woman, totally intelligent and in control. So she paired me up with Nikki Hunter who is tall, pale, dark haired, sexy and wildly intelligent.

CJ: You’re a hot young girl that’s comfortable with her sexuality. Have you ever used your looks or your body to get special favors?

Ela: I have never in my life gotten out of a speeding ticket! It has never been one time that a cop has said, ‘I’m going to let you go.’ Fuck no. I won’t say that I use my looks because that would imply a level of intention that’s not present but I have privileges and have gained things because I’m a pretty girl. People do things for you because you’re a pretty girl. Lots of free drinks and free pastries…people are just nice to me. I’m sure it’s a factor. (laughs)

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CJ: What does the future hold for Ela Darling? Where do you want to take your career?

Ela: I want to start my own production company which I’m starting to do. I want to direct awesome, funny, sexy lesbian porn which isn’t harmful to women. It’s very important to me to fight against the dichotomization of female sexuality which is very present in pornography. You’re basically barely legal until you’re a MILF and there’s very little in between. Women in my age group don’t exist. I still get cast as a teenager because I’m not a MILF. I want women, and everybody else, to feel good about watching it.

CJ: Any upcoming scenes that your fans can look forward to?

Ela: Pussy Whipped directed by Aiden Starr just came out so they should pick that up. I’m doing some really fun scenes for Fem-Life. The guy who directs that is named Sam and he’s just funny and clever. He kind of writes like a beatnik sort of. The last scene I did with him was called Atlas Sodomized. I play this evil, maniacal acting professor and I have this student coming in to read for a part and I lose my shit because she’s not prepared. At one point, I shove a steel butt plug up her ass and pull it out. It was just an awesome scene.

I also shot a solo scene for a company called VRTube, VRTube.xxx, I think. What they’re doing is these two brilliant kids, a theoretical physics major and a computer science kid, just geniuses, had me do porn for the Oculus Rift. It’s a virtual reality headset that you put on and it’s very, very immersive. You can look around and see different parts of the world, you can see everything. It’s fucking cool as hell. There’s only about 150,000 out there right now. Facebook just bought Oculus and it’s going to be available at Best Buy, probably next year. So these kids are doing really cool shit, making really cool immersive experiences and apparently everything we shot was pretty awesome. I should be working with them a lot more in the future. So that was really cool.

CJ: And how can the fans get ahold of you?

Ela: Tumbler is eladarling.tumblr.com; Instagram and Twitter are @eladarling. YouTube is youtube.com/darlingela.

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